How to Be Happy? That’s a question we often ask ourselves without even realizing it. We want a better marriage, better life, better career – we want to be happy but with everything that is going on in our lives – the question is still asked. How to be happy? How to be happy when everything I try to do falls apart. Or how to be happy when family, friends, work – life conspires against me. So I went in search of the answer and this is what I found (a compilation of many thoughts, ideas and tips found online on how to be happy in life). See Below
10 Ways on how to Be Happy
1. Keep it simple. Start with the small stuff and get it out of the way. We have a tendency to want to tackle the large impossible problems hoping to fix something (problem) that probably took years to create or we have very little control over. It sounds simple but one of the best tips ever given in how to be happy in life is to tackle the small problems, get them out of the way first and slowly work on the larger problems. As you solve the small problems, you will have more free time and or resources to better handle the larger problems.
2. Fake it till you feel it. It sounds funny and some may think it’s hypocritical to say you should fake doing something – the belief of doing what you feel so you can be happy. The issue is that the question is “how to be happy?” The solution sometimes requires you to forgo your feelings. Think of it as a Olympic athlete, they love to win medals but I doubt they love the pain of aching muscles, early morning workouts and a forced diet. Yet they forgo what they feel, the need to skip out on training and all that to accomplish the goal. Sometimes we simply need to keep doing it, training, studying, working, saving – until we reach our goal and when we do – we will be happy with the results.
3. Deal with it. There is a saying that you should never go to bed angry – that it has a way of growing, getting worse. But when it comes to problems, some problems need to be dealt with right away, others are better handled with time. In either case you have to figure out which problems requires immediate attention and which can be pushed back or better dealt with at another time. It sounds easy but can be difficult to master.
4. Realize that anything worth doing is worth doing badly. The brain is stimulated by surprise, and successfully dealing with an unexpected situation gives a powerful sense of satisfaction. People who do new things―learn a game, travel to unfamiliar places―are happier than people who stick to familiar activities that they already do well. Stop fearing failure, think more about the possibilities.
5. Don’t treat the blues with a “treat.” Pleasure lasts a minute, but then feelings of guilt and loss of control and other negative consequences deepen the lousiness of the day. While it’s easy to think, I’ll feel good after I have a few glasses of wine…a pint of ice cream…a cigarette…a new pair of jeans, it’s worth pausing to ask whether this will truly make things better.
6. Buy some happiness. Oh my Gosh – did you just say money can buy you happiness! No I did not. Our basic psychological needs include feeling loved, secure, and good at what we do. You also want to have a sense of control. Money doesn’t automatically fill these requirements, but it sure can help. I’ve learned to look for ways to spend money to stay in closer contact with my family and friends; to promote my health; to work more efficiently; to eliminate sources of irritation and marital conflict; to support important causes; and to have enlarging experiences.
7. Don’t insist on the best. There are two types of decision makers. Satisficers (yes, satisficers) make a decision once their criteria are met. When they find the hotel or the pasta sauce that has the qualities they want, they’re satisfied. Maximizers want to make the best possible decision. Even if they see a bicycle or a backpack that meets their requirements, they can’t make a decision until they’ve examined every other possible option. Satisficers tend to be happier than maximizers. Maximizers expend more time and energy reaching decisions, and they’re often anxious about their choices. Sometimes good enough is good enough.
8. Exercise to boost energy. Exercise is one of the most dependable mood-boosters. You will feel better, actually become healthier and boast your energy levels. In essence, the question to “how to be happy?” May very well be found in taking a few minutes a day to improve your health and attitude.
9. Stop nagging. If you push the natural tendency is for people to push back. The more you nag the less inclined a person will be to actually do (or do well) what you asked of them. Nagging also stems from anger, unhappiness and negative emotions. You’ve heard it said “he never…” or “She always…” Nagging comes from that negative place. Let the song goes – let it go. Find ways to compromise. Why not create a schedule or an arrangement and agree to do things together. No one is perfect and things may get missed, but nagging comes from holding ill feelings and if you are doing that – you will never learn how to be happy.
10. Take action. Some people assume happiness is something you are born with, your way of being. Although it’s true that genetics play a big role, about 40 percent of your happiness level is within your control. Taking time to reflect, and making conscious steps to make your life happier, really does work.
How to be happy should really be asked in this fashion – do you want to be happy? Because if you do, then you should take the time and effort to do what is necessary to make you happy. Being happy doesn’t mean you will not face trouble or hardship. It simply means you do what is necessary to create your happiness.
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